You're worrying about the wrong things

We all know there are a handful of establishments that specifically hire attractive women that are willing to wear little to no clothing to attract male clientele.  It is a business model that obviously works.  Men are going to these places.  They are spending their money there and may even be flirting with some of the employees.  Trying to keep them away from these places seems like a waste of time.  Women are everywhere.  Slutty, attractive, troublesome women are absolutely everywhere.  My ex cheated on me with a co-worker.  He didn't have to travel to a strip club or a restaurant that had buxom waitresses.  He was smarter and got paid to find someone to screw behind my back instead of paying someone else.  Most women I've spoken to that have been cheated on often have their men's jobs or internet to blame as the scene of the crime.
I just think it is so silly to think that those kind of women only exist in those types of establishments.  Especially when, let's be honest, most of us women have been "those kind of women" once in our pasts.  So let's concentrate less on where our men are eating lunch and more on why we're so insecure about it.  What have WE done in the past to make us so sure women are evil?

It really ISN'T supposed to be that difficult

I am in my early 30s, a child of the 80s, and raised in a single parent household.  Many of us can be described this way.  I'm not exactly sure which part of my upbringing had me convinced that relationships are supposed to be such hard work.  Not just compromise, but grueling, painful hard work.  I haven't had many relationships, but the, ahem, two I had in the past were full of too much effort on both of our parts.  I'm not saying I was always a dream to be with; I know my exes had to work hard to be with me as well.  I am fortunate enough to now be with someone that doesn't make me feel like I have another full time job.  I'm not saying he doesn't sometimes drive me crazy when he gets tired and cranky and yells for water, but for the most part, it's relaxed and smooth sailing.  We all just need to realize that the hard work that relationships require is not supposed to be constant.  We don't have to suffer greatly for very little reward.  Relationships should not be as exhausting as our jobs, which we at least get paid to dislike.
So if you have suffered or are suffering through a relationship that made you feel slightly off and extremely overworked, know that it does get better.  It is not supposed that hard.