It really ISN'T supposed to be that difficult

I am in my early 30s, a child of the 80s, and raised in a single parent household.  Many of us can be described this way.  I'm not exactly sure which part of my upbringing had me convinced that relationships are supposed to be such hard work.  Not just compromise, but grueling, painful hard work.  I haven't had many relationships, but the, ahem, two I had in the past were full of too much effort on both of our parts.  I'm not saying I was always a dream to be with; I know my exes had to work hard to be with me as well.  I am fortunate enough to now be with someone that doesn't make me feel like I have another full time job.  I'm not saying he doesn't sometimes drive me crazy when he gets tired and cranky and yells for water, but for the most part, it's relaxed and smooth sailing.  We all just need to realize that the hard work that relationships require is not supposed to be constant.  We don't have to suffer greatly for very little reward.  Relationships should not be as exhausting as our jobs, which we at least get paid to dislike.
So if you have suffered or are suffering through a relationship that made you feel slightly off and extremely overworked, know that it does get better.  It is not supposed that hard.

Why do men cheat?

Why do men cheat, how to keep your man, why do they do it…? All these questions come up when
we find out very successful men that seem to have the perfect marriages go astray. Here’s the real
question: Why are we still surprised? Haven’t you heard the old saying “No matter how beautiful a
woman is there is a man somewhere that is tired of her crap”?
Notice they always cheat on women different from their spouses. This makes complete sense. If you
love pizza, you still don’t want to eat it every single day. You would need to take a break from pizza
and get a steak. Doesn’t mean you are done with pizza or don’t like it anymore, you’re just craving
something different. Same concept.
Many men actually have so much respect for their wives that they take lovers to have someone to
disrespect. They couldn’t imagine treating their wives like a prostitute in the bedroom; that’s the
mother of their children and the woman who swore to love them wearing all white. The waitress at the
diner though, who cares who she really is and her apron was red, so she’s fair game. Another thing ladies:
taking out the trash and carrying groceries are not things that make men feel masculine. If anything,
those chores make them feel like little boys again. When that “other woman” makes them sweat and
obeys their orders, that makes them feel masculine.
Let me say, I do not condone infidelity, I just think I may understand it. Men are not like women. Men
do not think in terms of emotions or consequences like women do. They are very logical creatures.
They know they will never have superpowers and get to lead double lives as businessmen during the day
and secret agents by night. So the next best thing for many of them is to be dutiful husbands as well as
bad boy lovers.
I’m sure this will enrage or even scare some women out there, and it should. More than likely, if your
man is not cheating on you, he’s thought about it. I wonder what he decided? 

Toothbrushes are extremely important

It is extremely important to brush your teeth.  It promotes healthy gums, white teeth, and fresh breath.  They taught us all these basic facts in kindergarten.  I bet you don't remember hearing that a toothbrush will also make or break the progression of a relationship.
I have not had a lot of guests' toothbrushes in my life, but as one appears beside mine, I can't help wondering what the big deal is.  I'm always hearing women sigh and declare "Well, he has a toothbrush at my place."  I don't quite understand.  Men don't carry purses, so it's much more difficult to carry a toothbrush to and fro.  For the most part, it's just a normal over the counter disposable toothbrush, not a Sonicare, so leaving a toothbrush behind might have him out, what, oh maybe a buck?  All the toothbrush really says is "I come over here and do stuff that takes some time and makes my breath reek."  If a man just said that to most women, they wouldn't exactly swoon.
I've also heard women declare the moment they leave a toothbrush at a man's place.  First of all, have you noticed it's mainly when the man has roommates, which is a terrifying prospect on many levels.  One, it's much easier for men to explain away an extra toothbrush to other women when a roommate is involved.  Two, I can only imagine what is being done to that toothbrush when the owner isn't in attendance.
Also, just leaving a toothbrush behind unannounced isn't that impressive.  I bet most men don't even notice that there is an extra toothbrush, especially if we are referring to the same roommate situation.  Then, if they do notice it, why would they bother throwing it away or mentioning it to you if they wanted it removed?  Have you ever noticed how awful it is to talk to one of us about relationship boundaries?  It's awful.  They're honestly just choosing their battles.
So, let's just remember what's important about the toothbrush. It is not a barometer for our relationships.  Let's use toothbrushes to promote both good dental health AND good mental health.

When is the last time someone asked you out?

When is the last time someone asked you out?

Actually asked you out with words that you heard with your own ears, not just read off of a screen?

Men, you can read this, too. In fact, I just want to congratulate you. I am not an extremely old woman,
but I am someone who can recall those awkward conversations with young men who were trying to find
a way to ask me on a date. An actual conversation to invite me to a dinner or movie, face to face, or
sometimes over the phone, but still, with voices involved. The men I dated did not have the luxury of
mainstream texting or social networking to find out if they would be rejected.

Women are now allowing men to turn them into drive thru fast food chains. A man can go through his
contact list on his phone like a menu, send out his order to be filled immediately, and find it warm and
neatly wrapped in his lap for a low price.

Again, you have to be impressed with the men. They have convinced us that so many things are sexy to
them, and we just fall for it. They used to have to imagine what kind of panties we were wearing; now,
we just let our thongs stick out of the top of our extremely low pants. They would have to romance
us to get an invitation into our homes, let alone see us naked; now, we send them pictures directly to
their phones or just post them on our own pages. These geniuses do not even have to buy us drinks
anymore. Just show up at any given ladies’ night where we’re already drinking free and just wait until
2 AM.

So the next time you want to cry to your girlfriends about the recent man you met not treating you like a
lady, ask yourself this, when’s the last time you acted like a lady?

Men are imitating women now

After a year of being completely single and not wanting to date anyone, I'm surprised how men are reacting to the news that I now have a boyfriend.  First of all, I may or may not have led people to believe that I may in fact be a lesbian.  I take the blame for that.  Still, I'm shocked to learn that some men believed I was just waiting to until I was ready to go out with them specifically.  They get drunk and tell me their feelings are hurt. They go up to my boyfriend and act friendly, then behind his back say they don't understand why we're dating.  They whisper among themselves about what they think about our relationship and how they don't approve.  So to sum up, they are delusional, emotional, backstabbing, and gossipy.  Sound familiar?  Congratulations boys.  You should be having your first period soon.

This probably isn't healthy

I just wanted to share with all of you that it is about midnight on a Saturday night and I just drank a beverage that didn't contain alcohol and literally thought my body was going into shock.  I have been drinking so much alcohol that it is making me physically uncomfortable with normal beverages. That is not a good sign.  The other day I swallowed a mouthful of Scope because I'm so used to taking shots.
I am extremely lucky to be dating another functioning alcoholic that finds my drinking habits attractive.  Because that's what I need, incentive to keep drinking. Also, we're not the kind of couple that fights when we drink.  We're the couple that just wants to make out in public and drukenly slur sweet nothings to each other.  So ladies, if you're looking for a handsome, sweet, understanding boyfriend that finds heavy drinking sexy, too late.  I'm pretty sure I snagged the last one.

This is where crazy comes from

All women are crazy.  I am a woman and I'm telling you from experience.  I'm not going to pretend I myself am not crazy, I'm just more aware of it. We make decisions based on emotions.  When you are in school learning the alphabet or how to add, the teachers don't ask you what you FEEL the answer should be.  There is a reason for that.  Emotions should not fuel our thoughts.
Men, please pay attention to this lesson.  You cannot expect a woman to use logic when you are trying to tell her you just want to have sex with her and not a serious relationship.  She will nod and agree and parrot back everything you say.  You will think you two are on the same page and you are about to embark on a sexual journey of two adults that just enjoy each other physically.  She will think you find her attractive and you will be with her in an intimate way that has to mean something.  One night you will think you would enjoy dinner and sex, so why not have her along for both.  To her, that will be a date; your way of finally letting her know that you're feeling something too.  You'll start having more sex with her because you believe that's all you two have together.  She will believe that you cannot get enough of her so you have to be with her all the time.  She may even label one of those sessions as "making love."  Do I have to continue, or are most of you already shuddering with memories and going through post traumatic stress disorder?
The craziness we possess is located inside of us, inside our vaginas incidentally.  Just think of it like pumping air into a bicycle tire.  The more times and the harder you pump it, the bigger the craziness becomes.  Keep drilling at an already crazy girl, pretending she isn't crazy, just makes her crazier.
Unfortunately I do not have a clear cut solution for you.  It is extremely important that you are aware of the fact the "I told her it was just sex from day one" is not an actual defense.  That actually only works on men, so looks like you have a major life choice to make.